Eulogy

1947 November - 2020 March

Created by Lynn Everitt 4 years ago

IN MEMORY OF A WONDERFUL HUSBAND, DAD,      GRANDDAD, FRIEND AND COLLEAGUE
DAVID GLYN JOHN EVERITT

SONG: Wish you were here by Pink Floyd

GRANDDAD’s TRIBUTE, BY GRANDDAUGHTER         KAYLEIGH EVERITT

Granddad you’re a ‘one in million’, there is no one     else like you around. I sit here and think it’s still not true and you are going to walk through my front      door and do your whistle and that this whole thing   was a bad dream, but I know that is not happening  so for now until I see you again, I will sit here and think about our memories together we had down        Devon. 

I will never forget all your old jokes definitely your    favourite one about the four skin divers that got      everyone in stitches every time. You used to tell       these jokes every year down Devon or when we       brought someone new into the Everitt family. I will    definitely miss the knee nurdling even though it hurt like nobody business, I will miss it. I am going to     miss the singing Granddad,

We are going down the pub (which was a lot). 
I know a song that will get on your nerves or when  Kian was little 
I know a song that will get up your nose. 

We all sit and here and laugh about the renovation   that you did on our little boat, the most                  uncomfortable seat going, or re-doing the console    but forgetting to fill in the old holes, so down in       Devon there was you, Dad, Kian and Brian trying to play dot to dot filling in these holes but of course it  was Kian’s fault as always. 

Or the time where your boat become a ‘Dancing on Ice’ boat edition, but you swore blind you put non slip stuff on the floor.  All these times put us all in           stitches, they still do now, and that is what made     you Granddad. They don’t just put Grand in front of any word, they only put in front of words for people who deserve it and granddad I can definitely say      from the bottom of my heart you were one of those people. 

Granddad you could light an entire room up with your smile, you were loved by so many people near and far. Devon is not going to be the same without you, where you sat on the beach in your chair with a cup of tea in your hands, reading the paper, hat on and  your wetsuit around your waist, smelling so badly.    Giving your orders to everyone or blaming Kian for  everything that goes wrong. I am going to miss us    lot sitting on the sea wall, you drinking either Proper Job or Tribute, causing trouble and talking to every   dog person that crossed paths with the Cricket Inn. 

Granddad, there are so many more memories of ours I will remember but I will be here forever saying    them all, but I will certainly keep them in my mind. I love you with all my heart, it hurts that I had to say goodbye so early. I really hope I do you proud. I      know you will be watching over us all every day. You are finally reunited with little Nan, (poor little Nan).  Look after them all up there. Until next time            Granddad. 

A TRIBUTE TO DAVID, BY STEPDAUGHTER JENNY    MCKERLIE
And granddaughters Scarlett-Rose and Daisy

David you'll be thought about so often with such       loving memory.You were all the Special things that a Husband, Father, Granddad and of course a dog owner could have been.The laughter that you brought to the lives you have touched will live on forever, as     you were loved so very much.
You really are missed being here, since you went     away.But the happiness you brought to many will get treasured every day!So may you find a gentle peace in your eternal rest.We’ll always love you dearly       David.You really were the best!


SONG: Wonderful tonight - Eric Clapton


A TRIBUTE TO MY DAVID – BY LYNN EVERITT

My David

Born David Glyn John Everitt on Tuesday 25th         November 1947 in East London. His Mum Rosie was Welsh and he was originally to be christened Dafyd, but his father refused in case he was called ‘Daffodil’ in school! 

David didn't see his Dad until he was 5 years old, as he was supposedly lost in the desert somewhere! He adored his Mum and had many fond memories         growing up, with Aunts and Uncles, trips out and      holidays together shared with his little brother Bryn.

In 1959 he passed his 11+ and went to Plaistow      Grammar School, in East London where he first met me! We were in the same class 1A but after the first year, David moved to a different class and we never really got to know each other!

In the 4th year we both went on a school cruise on   the ship Dunera. I never even knew he was on it, but he had photos of me he had taken, in my swimsuit!!

As a young teenager he used to attend Sunday        Service as a choirboy at the local church St Andrews in Plaistow East London. This was purely so he could  go to the attached club in the vicarage, where there were girls!

He stayed on at school in the 6th form and this was   the 60’s a time of music, mods and rockers and       surfing. His passions at this time were the Beach      Boys, hitch hiking trips to Devon during school         holidays and surfing in Newquay and surrounding areas with his schoolmates. 

He left Plaistow Grammar at 18 and went to work as a dispensing pharmacist for Boots the chemist in     Aldgate. He had many tales of 'goings on' here,       supplying some of the local characters with weird     concoctions, and how he had to make the tablets and mix medicines together. He even picked up Latin, … which I did for 2 years in school and cannot say    anything!

His love of motorbikes and cars definitely did not put him in the category of a 60’s Mod with Vespa Scooters! He loved tinkering and would build vehicles          (Hillman Imps), from bits and pieces and spent lots  of time in breakers yards. In the 70’s he converted an old Bedford Luton into a camper van for his family.

When he married, like so many East Enders he       moved out of East London to Stanford le Hope in     Essex. 

Unknown to both of us, I had also moved to Stanford le Hope, so our paths crossed many times.

He left the chemist and joined the bus service in      Grays, Essex. He was responsible for maintaining the buses keeping them on the road. (A lot of the          campervan he converted was made with old bus seats etc.! He was good at recycling!)

Whenever we saw an old Route Master bus go by we always had to follow it and get a picture!

The Fire Brigade was his next career choice, where   the camaraderie and friendships proved to be          memorable times. He was a tough man, had a          temper, what you saw is what you got, but he was    also a sensitive man and some of the sights he saw   in the Fire Brigade stayed with him for the rest of his life. But with most emergency services they had a     ‘sick’ sense of humour, which got them through       many bad times.

It was in the Fire Brigade that he first learnt to         Scuba Dive, a passion he followed for the rest of his  life. He made many friends in the Scuba club and    many are still mates today.  

Tim Alderman, Brian Wood and Babs, Nashers,        Norman Cole, Melinda Locke, Bobby Mac, Bob Bray,  Pete Marshal… to name a few.

Their tales of scallops, lobsters, crabs, rum and even more scallops are still told today, with laughter over  the very basic equipment they used to dive with and the fun times they all had. 

He left the Fire Service to set up on his own making aquariums and dealing in tropical fish. He knows all  the fish Latin names and has many happy memories in the shop helped by his family.

He had to give up his own business when the           recession hit and small business owners were hit      with high rents and taxes. He went back to logistics and vehicle maintenance for Wincanton Transport.

His other passion was Jack Russell pups! In his         lifetime he owned 5 Jack Russell’s all called Rusty.    People have fond memories of each of these pups,    especially No 3 who was fond of emitting strong       smells, eating cow pats and coming home soaked     with water after showing his affection to female       pups!

Current pup, Rusty No. 5 has David’s love of the       water and boats, and barks constantly on the beach, to the annoyance of friends and other beach users!

His love of stupid jokes is legendary, he tells the       same old jokes, especially whenever someone new   comes on the scene. Ask Kayleigh; her new             boyfriend Taylor was subject to these a couple of     weeks ago when he met David for the first time.

Jokes

* How do you circumcise a whale? - Send down 4     skin divers 
* What's the definition of a Spanish suppository -     Innuendo!
* What’s the noise and anchor makes when it hits    the water – Spalash!

US

David and I had bumped into each other at evening   classes in Essex in the 1980’s, he was taking his CPC in Road Transport and I was undertaking AAT           account exams. We then met again as a School        Reunion in the early 1990’s.  My marriage had ended and I moved to Crawley with my Job and 2 younger children. After his marriage ended, he obtained my   address from the School Reunion organiser and       wrote to me. (I still have the letter!) 

I called him a couple of weeks later (best thing I      ever did!), and he came over to see me that Friday  night. After meeting up on the Monday and Tuesday he never went back home. We knew it was right we were in love!

On that Wednesday I took him with me to babysit for my friends Charlotte and Dennis, they were surprised when I introduced Dave as the week before they had met a different Dave (I’d not had a man friend    before, let alone 2 in one week, both called Dave!)

Dennis made a comment to David about how sad some people were who could recite The Life of Brain    verbatim. David responded, that’s me and went into a long monologue. That was the start of a lifelong     friendship with Charlotte and Dennis.

We were married the following year on 19th August 1997, on our own in Devon of course, it was a         wonderful day. 

We moved into our current house, which between us we have completely rebuilt/redecorated. Friends and neighbours were always asking when we would stop.  The house and garden were our ‘thing’’, ponds,        gazebos, decking.

Then along came Grandchildren, a wonderful joy to   both of us. He was a fantastic Granddad and loved    them all to bits. He enjoyed being with all children,   in the nicest possible way! They loved being             tormented by him, being called ‘Pests in Vests’ and   giving high fives and spuds.

We had many happy holidays together including       going to Australia to see my son and two                 granddaughters. But our favourite holidays were in  Beesands, near Dartmouth in Devon.

He loved boats; his first was a Delky Dory that was   found sunk in Kingsbridge, Devon. It was retrieved and restored starting his passion for boats.  He has    owned a 5.5 metre RIB since the early 1990’s, it a    bit like Triggers’ Broom, still the same boat but lots  of new bits attached….

The holidays over the years have consisted of scuba diving for scallops, fishing for mackerel, playing with inflatables and more scallops! And, of course rum    drinking and going to the pub.

His proudest moments were when his son Marks      children, Kayleigh and Kian learnt their boating skills in their own RIB. Then Kian passed all his Scuba      Diving qualifications and was scuba diving with        Granddad. David said he was like a ‘bee in a bottle’, pulling him all over the place underwater whilst        attached to a buddy line. But, Kian always found the lobsters…

We have made many friends at Beesands, the local   fishermen and staff and owners of The Cricket Inn    pub, which David will be returning to for a drink.

On our anniversary he always gave me a red rose for every year we’d been married and on our 20th        anniversary one of the roses developed roots and is now growing in our garden, a testament to our love. 

In 1996 he was introduced to Crawley Sea Cadets     ‘TS Cossack’ through my son who was a Marine       Cadet. He volunteered here for over 24 years,         making trailers, repairing boats, escorting Cadets     and driving them around, along with any general or vehicle maintenance that was needed.  He assisted   with fund raising and was also the Chairman for a    while.  

Here he made long lasting friendships with Nick       Boorman, Vic Woolgar and Carl Penny. Many hours   were spent in the boat shed, happily indulging in lots of glue and fibreglass, reciting Peter Seller films and generally being outrageous.

When we retired Carl Penny (now a paramedic)        asked if we’d like to drive for his Medi4 Ambulance   Patient Transport Company.  We decided to try it out and found it so rewarding, learning many life skills.  So many, that I felt comfortable looking after David at home for palliative care.  

I so loved being double crew with David on the rare  times we worked together. Many other crew            members loved working with him, he was so much    fun to be with. They always told us we were a great example for marriage as we were so much fun to be with and so obviously in love. 

The messages received from the Medi4 family are    wonderful, especially the little teddy made from       David’s own work shirt. It’s a great comfort knowing he was appreciated and enjoyed.

The one thing I will always remember is that he told me at least 10 times a day that he loved me. He said it for the last time just before he died as I did to      him. xxxxx
He died in my arms. 

My David xxxxx

Quote during committal

Where do people go when they die?
Somewhere below, or in the sky?
I can't be sure, said Granddad, but it seems,
They simply set up home in our dreams!

SONG: I'll see you in my dreams - Joe Brown